There was a time when couples were supposed to be satisfied with the resolution being “Let’s just agree to disagree.” Frankly this is not particularly satisfying as each are left with frustrated feelings – a log jam in the relationship. A far better resolution is truly understanding your partner’s point of view offering both empathy and a sense of “getting” one another. We may not agree on things, but receiving affirmation of self from your partner offers a kind of healing and connection while “agreeing to disagree” leaves one feeling at odds and disconnected. “You do not need to agree with me, but at least give me a sense that you understand where I am coming from and I am not crazy.”

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