This year as we re-introduce the concept of “love” back into relationships we observe a dynamic, which makes it difficult for couples to reconnect: Competition verses Generosity. This is when partners are at odds, instead of being on the same team. Our need to be “right” and “better” prohibits our best selves from emerging and engaging with one another. We find ourselves reacting from a place of competition instead of having a generous attitude. Some examples are: Throwing your partner “under the bus” to family and / or friends instead of having your partner’s back and supporting them Hijacking the kids so they side with you instead of encouraging a spirit of respect for the other parent Speaking to your partner with an edge or putting them down instead of promoting a tone that honors your partner Remember you are in this together and adopting an attitude of generosity will benefit both you as an individual and your relationship. Try giving your spouse the benefit of the doubt and standing by their side. Take a moment to reflect on your own behavior. Do you treat your partner with respect and make efforts to show appreciation and good will?

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