Recently, it occurred to us that we take for granted a basic marriage principle - You should be your “True Self” with your partner. How many of you masquerade, hiding parts of yourself because you will feel judged by your spouse or due to your own embarrassment or shame? Are you hiding truths about yourself? Can you let your hair down with your partner so that he/ she knows your deepest concerns? We find that couples complain that there is too much small talk in their relationship and that people avoid sharing their more intimate parts, which then makes them feel alone and disconnected. Take a chance. Speak openly from your heart about a concern or worry that is on your mind (not pointing a finger at other). Show courage by destabilizing the status quo. Be open to the possibility that with risk comes reward.

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