As you reflect on the year just ending, take a moment to focus on your relationship. How have you viewed and treated your partner? Have you been disparaging pointing out their weaknesses and reminding them of past hurts? Does that moat that you have built around yourself for protection also keep you isolated? As you make resolutions for the coming year, put improving your attitude toward your partner at the top of the list. You actually create the atmosphere in your relationship that you so frequently complain about. In 2019 begin the year by telling your partner the ways in which you appreciate them. Brush away those tendencies to complain and point out the negative. Honoring your relationship and the positive aspects of your partner can shift away from the blame and shame game and re-introduce positive energy into the home which will benefit everyone. Be willing to start over.

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