Couples frequently tell us that they are frustrated by the hills and valleys of their relationship. They also tell us how exhausting the ups and downs can be. Why is it that we have to go through the exhilaration of things going well only to have them be painful the next day? A woman recently told us that she shudders when things are going well because she knows what is coming. What if we change the playing field? Rather than seeking exhilaration, we become more mindful about just getting along and showing appreciation for one another. Life is increasingly complicated and demanding. Take the pressure off yourself and your partner. Sometimes we have to be reminded that our partner cannot be expected to fulfill all our needs. Perhaps in striving for mediocrity, you will be surprised to find yourselves enjoying getting along on a more consistent basis.

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