With the Holiday spirit all around us, this is a good time to remember that it is better to be loving and kind than acting like the grinch. Indeed, you do have a choice. You can either grumble, complain, and blame your partner for all the ills that you feel (life pressures, exhaustion, depletion) or you can remind yourself how fortunate you are and operate from a feeling of bounty and appreciation. Make a list of all the things you love and appreciate about your partner and tell them – this is not a contest or competition – simply let them know the good things about them and do not expect anything in return.

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