You met, fell in love, and decided to spend the rest of your lives together to take care of each other “‘til death do you part.” What did that really mean? Were expectations discussed or assumed? Was disappointment inevitable as a result of unrealistic expectations put on your partner to meet needs that went unmet as a child? Over time have you come to rely more on your partner for your happiness while holding yourself less accountable? Do you blame them for decisions that were actually made together? In order to have a more conscious and fulfilling relationship, ask yourself what are my responsibilities for my own self care and happiness and what can I realistically expect from my partner. What are each of your responsibilities in achieving a harmonious and fulfilling relationship? Some of your unhappiness may have little to do with your partner and are your questions to figure out. Stop making your partner the scapegoat for your discontent.

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