Too many of the couples we work with have lost sight of the fact that love is a feeling. They are mired in resentments and beliefs about the past hurts and misunderstandings between them. Love can have many components: Commitment the fact that we have many years together; shared history raising kids and building memories; familiarity the fact that we know each other so well and no one knows us better. Ultimately, love is a feeling and people forget to hold onto and focus on that truth. Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and try right now to recapture that place of appreciation, softness, and caring. Sweep away the gremlins that keep us from experiencing the vulnerability of allowing yourself to fully embrace all that your partner means to you. Try honoring, recapturing and focusing on the love you have for your mate. Doesn’t that feel better?

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