We have noticed a recent shift in dialogue with our couples groups. Conversations moving from criticism and blaming to curiosity and turning toward one another. As someone recently said “misery and blaming is going out of style.” We need to stop looking toward other to change and fix things, and take responsibility for the things WE can do for our own happiness and relationship satisfaction. A good friend shared a few powerful yet simple words of advice when relaying an argument, she had with her husband. She turned to him and said, “We are on the same team.” How true. We forget that even though we may have different styles and opinions, we are all wanting the same thing; to feel loved and cared about. It may be useful to pause here and reflect on whether our words and actions match up with what we really want? As Thanksgiving approaches, this seems like a good time to remember to give thanks to one another for all they ARE doing, working hard to support the family, raising children and managing household tasks. It is becoming more fashionable these days to turn toward each other and say thank you �� What do you have to lose? Happy Thanksgiving, and thank you all for your hard work on your relationships and feedback in our work together!

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