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Pearl of the Month - December 2023
Is Your Relationship Headed in the Right Direction?
It seems that some relationships grow stronger
over time while others weaken. What are the
telltale signs that your relationship is headed in
the right direction?
We know that all relationships go through
particular stages, and that the “Honeymoon
Phase” fades over time and is replaced by the
disappointment phase. Similarities begin to dim
and differences become more glaring.
Are you able as a couple to listen to your partner’s feedback (complaints?) or is it
difficult for one or both of you to truly “hear” your partner’s perspective? One critical
aspect of allowing relationships to thrive is being receptive to your partner’s point of
view.
Because we know that opposites attract, and often couples get stuck around their
differences, can you each see that these differences actually make your relationship
stronger (we have lots to teach each other)? Can you honor and learn from differences?
Another indicator that your relationship is headed in the right direction, is a commitment
to working on things together. A key element is having a strong commitment to the
relationship by both partners. When things get rocky, do you say or think “I’m out of
here” or do you acknowledge that all relationships go through difficult times and you will
work on things together?
Lastly, noticing and responding to your partner’s bids strengthens connection. Do you
look for and notice when your partner offers a bid? If your partner offers an idea or
suggestion, lean into what they are saying and acknowledge them. Too many times we
are distracted or on our phones and we are not even aware of the bid being made.
What signs do you see in your relationship that indicate that you are headed in the right
direction?
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submit them to us at marrylabs@comcast.net.