We are our own worst enemies. We often create (or at least contribute to) the very things we complain about. Here are three truths to keep in mind for 2023: 1. Relationships (and people) change over the course of time. It is never going to be like it was when you first met, with the biggest change occurring once you have kids. Stop looking for the “good old days” or bludgeoning your partner with how it used to be. Appreciate the now. 2. Have a generous attitude towards your partner (and yourself). Put aside that critical part and give your partner the benefit of the doubt. 3. Kindness begets kindness. Your partner is not the enemy. The key to marriage is giving your partner what they want, not forcing your beliefs on them. Differentiation is a key aspect – “We are different and I love who you are.” Accept your partner for who they are. Wishing you all a Happy and Healthy New Year!

We appreciate thoughts and ideas for future Pearls from our readership, please submit them to us at marrylabs@comcast.net.