What are the key ingredients to having and maintaining loving, healthy relationships? Not surprising, research shows that couples who practice kindness and generosity are the winners! This is not a simple task. It requires hard work, practicing self-regulation. Couples who stay regulated feel calm, connected, and affectionate toward one another. They feel cared for, understood and validated. With regular practice, we can achieve some of these qualities even during an argument. Just as going to the gym and working out on a regular basis will lead to stronger muscles and improved overall well-being, practicing self- regulation leads to greater capacity to stay calm, and to bring a spirit of kindness and generosity into the relationship. Kindness and generosity are the antidote to contempt, criticism and hostility which can be toxic in relationships. In our busy lives it can be quite challenging to build in time to develop healthy mind habits, however, a little goes a long way. Prioritizing this practice is a way to keep your personal and couple reservoir full of good will and bring a spirit of kindness and generosity into your relationship. As always, we would love to hear your thoughts and feedback!

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