Too often couples struggle with who is right. This is a frustrating and fruitless battle. My grandmother used to say, “There are three sides to every story – your side, their side, and the truth." We all want affirmation of how we see things but unfortunately there are nuances of truth and thus truth is subjective. We see things differently and both can be right. Each day when we leave for work, I like to turn right and go on main roads. I truly believe it is faster. My wife on the other hand likes to go left and travel on back roads. To her this way is faster. We have tried clocking the miles, each taking our own car and seeing who arrives first, etc. We are both right for ourselves. This is a hard concept to accept that there is no “right.” When each of us thinks we are “right,” our adrenaline rises and we dig in our heels. It requires a high level of trust, maturity and appreciation of other (high water in the reservoir) to pause, and not be reactive. Embrace the concept that it is OK to see things differently and both can be “right” from their own point of view. Is it more important to be “right” than to be happy? Is it more important to be “right” or to be married?