Surrendering to love is a frightening process. It involves a resignation that “this is it.” Despite the downside of the relationship, you can make the decision that for better or for worse, you are going to love your mate. Doing this eliminates the excitement of daily musings of escape. It deprives you of “being alive” by fantasizing about another life, and imagining your freedom. It is sobering to truly love and appreciate your partner as it forces you to slowdown, experience true commitment to one person, and acknowledge life’s limitations. We do not have forever. Some people want to keep their options open so as to avoid their own mortality and the fact that you cannot “have it all.” Settling in to accepting and even appreciating your partner can be an onerous task. Can you dare to truly love?