One of the more fascinating dynamics that we frequently run into with couples is the perception that the other person wields the power. Each partner is convinced that the other is in "in control". How can that be? We often hear the beleaguered expression "happy wife, happy life." The husband feels that he is sacrificing just to make his wife happy. He insists that he works long hours to provide her the life that she wants. He feels that she makes all the decisions and he is but a sideshow. Meanwhile, the wife is baffled and says, "you need this house in this fancy neighborhood. You need the toys and emblems of success. I do not care where we live. I'd rather be happy." She feels powerless to influence the things that truly matter. Each honestly believes that the other makes all the important decisions. Who wears the pants in your relationship?