So often we hear of partners hurting each other verbally and pushing beyond what seems reasonable. It is kind of sad that we have had to teach couples a simple technique, which seems so obvious and has proven effective. When in a skirmish, that is getting out of hand, either person can say, “STOP” and walk away. Their partner is not allowed to follow, block the door, or continue the harangue. This cannot be over used or it loses its effectiveness. You each have the right to say, “enough” and recompose yourself to discuss whatever the issue is at another time. Many people will read this and think it is not relevant to them, but rather to couples in an abuse cycle relationship. Unfortunately, even in the best of couples, there are times when a kind of craziness prevails and one has to have the right to say, “STOP!” and be listened to.